The Worthiness Trap and How to Love Yourself

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Hi, everybody. We’re going to talk about worthiness today, self-love, and how that is affecting ascension. So I’m really excited to talk about this with Lisa. Hi, Lisa. Hi. Hi, I apologize. I’m on the run in my car, just got my hair done and taking care of my granddaughter. Thank you. Yeah. Are you driving? No, I stopped. Oh, good. I just have the air conditioning on because it’s 90 degrees out. Oh, self-love. It’s like you’re running. Yeah. Yes. So it was interesting because this morning I was watching a video talking about these different stages of ascension and where people are, and they were talking about the three different levels.

There’s the NPCs, and then they mentioned people who have some reptilian to them, and then the pure humans, if that made sense. And they said one of the things that tripping up the people is one of the biggest ones is self-love as part of the ascension, that we really need to connect. And most of it is unconscious. It’s been part of a huge programming that is inherited and programmed through us through our childhood. Yeah. So there are certain questions I would ask yourself if you’re wondering, well, do I love myself enough? You know? And I would ask before you do something, especially if somebody’s asking you for something, is this going to be in my highest good? Is this a self-loving thing to do for myself? So with Lisa, she had a spa day a little bit.

So yes, that’s self-loving. But if it was in a spa that was maybe sketchy, maybe you’re going to go get your toes done, and it’s the cheapest place in town, and you could get something in there. Is that self-loving? No. So really think about what it is that you’re doing, because we’ve been taught to stay small. And it’s really important that we quit playing small. It’s time for us to step into who we are, step into our power, and basically be ourselves now. But it’s also, I see that a lot on people’s lack of spending money on themselves, right? It’s a worthy, like, I’m not worth it, or people paying compliments or things like that about taking it in.

I remember when I first started doing my work 25 years ago, I had a nervous breakdown, and I started out with just Reiki, and they went to pay me and handed me a check, and I just had them put it down because I couldn’t look at it. Like, I didn’t feel worthy of being paid. And now I have no problem with it. But it was a huge leap for me to start charging what I was worth, start believing in that I could do certain things. So it’s all about the worth. And people may even say I’m worthy, but pay attention to your actions, not your words.

Yeah, remember, you have a soul that’s completely worthy of whatever it is. And are you denying yourself something? Are you denying yourself a vacation? Are you denying yourself a day at the beach? Are you denying yourself a walk through the forest? You know, or a piece of clothing that maybe you might need for something that you’re doing? Because one of the most magical things that I’m noticing is sometimes I’ll look at something I’m like, wow, that’s really expensive. And then I say yes to it anyway, or I get invited to do a trip.

And there’s a part of me that’s like, no, I can’t be gone for weeks on end. And then it’s just the money shows up, everything flows. So it’s like if you want something, that’s the amazing part about this new, this ascension process and being in the fifth dimension, is that when you get into flow, it’s magic. And the things that you wouldn’t normally think that you could do or accomplish start happening. And the more you believe that you’re worthy of it, the more these magical things start to happen. I’m telling you, I just watch my life unfold in such amazing ways.

And even to a point, because I had a friend in the car, we had to get from Cape Cod to Boston in a limited amount of time. And on a Monday morning, the traffic is insane. I was told it would take three hours when it’s supposed to take two. And it took us two hours. We literally because two of us were in the breakdown lane, and not the breakdown lane, there’s a HOV lane. And as soon as we got onto the HOV lane, the traffic in the other lane piled up, it was dead stop.

It was like everything moved out of our way for us to get where we needed to go. And and it’s really cool to watch it happen. Yeah. And that’s the fifth dimension. Yeah, a lot of these things we don’t actually need in our way anymore. So we’re allowing them to get out of the way. And one of those things is traffic. Yeah. So really think about what are you creating in your life? What do you want to see in your life? How do you want to manifest that? And what do you need to heal so that you can let go of any blocks that are in the way of those things? Yeah, it’s really important.

That’s why I love the work that that honey and I do so much together because when you’re working with the unconscious mind, people truly have no idea. I know I didn’t. It took me a long time to realize like I was going to therapy two to three times a week and just listening to myself talk. But no one was able to get to the deep root of the issue until I was able to really go into those other states of brain frequencies, these other places where that information is stored or go into it at a metaphysical level where it’s stored in in your energy field where people don’t know.

And if you look at your family patterns and you see things that are going on that are really dysfunctional, I guarantee you that it is inherited ancestral stuff that you have no idea. You just think, oh, it’s just like what everyone does or this is how families that we I just happened to have a dysfunctional family. Yeah, you do. But there’s something you can do about it and you don’t have to carry it and you don’t have to bring it on to your descendants and your your your children and your grandchildren.

Yeah, we don’t have to bring it through. And they don’t want it. Oh, that’s another thing. They’re not interested. And it’s time to break those cycles. So what we do, it helps you break those cycles, whether you know what it is or not, whether you know what the root cause is or not, because we’re breaking the cycle itself. And it’s it’s been really beautiful to let go of things from the subconscious that are not in our highest good. And those things are usually things that happen when we were little. And we don’t necessarily have a good memory of them.

So a lot of that happens in the astral plane, as we go through and break soul contracts and generational contracts and curses and all the things that we don’t need to be carrying anymore. Because it’s almost like carrying a backpack full of genetic waste. Yep. Yeah, I always say a 50 pound backpack full of bowling balls. It’s like, why, why do you want to carry that? And people is like, because that’s all I know. Well, you want to carry, you know, the devil, you know, around with you or or let it go.

I mean, will it make changes in your life? Probably. But it’s all for the best. It’s all for the best. It’s it’s so beautiful. I just even watched this is a silly example. But even today with time and manifesting, I ended up having to take my daughter to work because her car wasn’t working. And so I was half hour late for my for a hair appointment. They weren’t going to be able to cut my hair. And guess what time just warped and everything worked. And I got on this call with honey.

Everything went smoothly. It was insane. It’s just when you relax and let it flow and stop trying to control it and know it’s a knowing at your deepest level that it’s going to happen. Yep. And it’s a going with the flow and your body will feel it if you’re not going with the flow. If you’re agreeing to something that’s not good for you, you’ll know it. If you’re putting something in your mouth, that is really probably negative for you. You’ll know it like your body will tell you. And I remember things like that, like getting warned before I would eat something.

And then not honoring it, because I didn’t want to bother the waiter or bother, you know, whoever, and then ending up really sick afterwards. Or or saying no to certain people in your life, because we feel guilty, or we don’t feel like we can speak up. And that’s the whole thing about self-love, is boundaries and learning to say no. And you know, in my own life, I’m constantly confronted with that, because I’m a very social person, and I love being around people and creating community. It’s a huge part. But not everyone is meant to be in my community.

Not everyone is meant to be, you know, in my space. And and it’s about learning to be more discerning and learning to protect yourself. Yeah, boundaries are really important right now, because we’re establishing what we don’t want. And we’re doing that not only in our own lives, but in the collective. So humanity itself is deciding, okay, I don’t want to be doing that anymore. And we have to really clue in because the more we create what we want in our lives, the better off the entire world is going to be because we created our own boundaries.

Yeah, yeah. And and and sending love. And this is this is the part that most people don’t really understand, is that when someone’s done you wrong, it doesn’t mean you sit and take it. But at the same time, you want to send them love. Because that’s the hardest thing for them to handle. And that’s the most healing thing you can do for yourself and humanity. Yeah, yeah. Because that’s like forgiveness, you know, and it doesn’t mean you have to go back to a situation with that person. It just means you’re releasing the situation that just happened.

Exactly, exactly. Yeah, no. Yeah, this is beautiful. This was a lot that’s been coming up for me. And I was glad that honey wanted to talk about it because I’m just noticing the world is shifting and changing and such a it’s it’s it’s accelerating. It’s so fast. And it’s about keeping up with the energies because the energies have been exhausting. Like I totally feel like I’m still I start to collapse and my energy drains and exhaustion and really having to listen to that and learning to have balance. And a lot of old stuff is coming up now.

And it’s about being neutral to it too. You want to see how far you’ve come. See how triggered you are when someone an old negative situation comes up on you. You’ll know if you’ve healed it or not. Yeah, that’s totally true. If you’ve healed it, then you will give it very little attention. Exactly. And if you haven’t, then you’ll be in an uproar around yourself, you know. So if you do get into an uproar, really work on what is the root cause of this? Am I ready to let it go? Yeah.

And that’s a huge part of when honey and I do is to help people let go because it’s not always easy. It really isn’t. And the first thing I always get from people is they hurt me. Why am I supposed to forgive them? Or they hurt me. Why should I let this go? Because people think if I let it go, then I’ll forget and it’ll happen again. And I always say you get to keep the wisdom and release the pain. So this is about keeping the wisdom and being in a sense of neutrality where you can start having peace, amazing peace in your life.

Yeah. And being willing to just say no, thank you. You can keep that. I’m not interested. Bye, you know, and be okay with that. And we’ve lost a lot of people along the way during ascension. As far as friends, family members, a lot of people have not been able to see what you may see. And sometimes that’s okay. You know, sometimes they come back, sometimes they start to see what you’re seeing. You can love them no matter what. And you don’t have to always talk about the same things. Think that’s important.

A lot of people think, well, we got to talk about this all the time, because this is what I’m learning. Find other people to talk to about it. You don’t have to inundate your family with that information. I think we’re at a point now where it’s not dangerous to be uninformed about certain things, because the world isn’t as dangerous as it was. I agree. Yeah, I agree. So no, I think I think a lot of things are playing out. And just kind of watch. I hate the term watch. It’s a movie, but I’m sitting back and I’m trying to look at the, what is the overarching universal lesson in this? Don’t look at the individual things that are happening.

Pull, try and rise above it and see, oh, if I look at it from this perspective, I see why these things are going on. And that I need to just pull back and not get angry. Yeah. Yeah, because you’re feeding it. If you’re getting really angry or, you know, feed stuff with happiness and love, feed the things you’d like. Now let the other stuff starve. Why not just starve out? You don’t need to give it attention. Gratitude. Yeah. And love. It’s beautiful. It is beautiful. It’s time for joy. It really is.

And if you are having a hard time, we would love to see you and at balancing body and soul.com, which I will have below and the quantum healing, but just know that you guys are really strong and things are working out. And if you need help, help us there. Yep. Yeah. We, it’s, it’s important for you to learn how to do this. We’re not healing anything. We’re teaching you how to heal yourself and honey and I are working on some really amazing courses and things to help people really change their lives.

I’m so excited about this, but it’s only $44. I mean, it’s changing your life. We tried to make it really reasonable and the amount of value that you get. It’s this Thursday. What is that? The 16th? It’s the 16th. Yeah. And it is a subscription and you can cancel on your own anytime. Yep. So and it’s 12 o’clock Eastern time and four o’clock. We do it twice. So you can come to both or you just come to one. And if you can’t make it, you can still join us by watching the replays.

So even though you may not be able to make the time, it’s all good because you can just watch it. It’s just as powerful. It is. Yeah. And the more people that are in there in that recording, the more people that show up, you’re lending power to the healing. Yeah, so you are really helping each other and helping yourselves, which you deserve because you are worthy of being healed of whatever it is. It might be a body thing. It might be a relationship thing. It might be some sort of pattern that you haven’t been able to let go of.

But you can heal it all yourself with guidance. Yeah. Yeah, thank you so much for your time. And we look forward to seeing you Thursday. The links are below. And yeah, it’s it’s a it’s a beautiful thing to watch. It is. Love you guys. Love you. Bye. [tr:trw].